POLL: What do you say when you learn a client has lost a family member?
You’re not alone if you feel uncomfortable responding to news of a death.
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“Ten Principles for Effective Grief Support,” an article by Amy Florian in The Journal of Financial Planning (February 2011) made me wonder what advice you have for this situation.
What do you say when you learn a client has lost a family member?
Are any of the following responses appropriate? What would YOU say?
- At least you still…
- Call me anytime you want to talk.
- How do you feel?
- How do you hope people will remember ___?
- I can’t imagine how you feel.
- I know how you feel.
- I’m so sorry.
- Is there anything I can do?
- Life will never be the same without ____.
- What happened?
Please answer the anonymous poll in the right-hand column of this blog. Comments are also welcome. In fact, they’re almost required because my dratted software lets you pick only one response to this complex situation.
I’ll report on the results in the next issue of my e-newsletter.
I look forward to learning from you.
Here’s an interesting link provided by a Twitter friend:
http://www.chessmanwealth.com/attending-to-your-financial-well-being-after-your-spouse-passes/
So glad you find these wonderful gems and share them with your blog followers. I’d figured some of this out and found the article helped me understand better the whys behind what to do. Since my own father is fast approaching his end, what to say and how to say it feels intensely important.
The New York Times published a complementary article on what to say to someone who’s sick.
It’s “‘You Look Great’ and Other Lies” (http://www.nytimes.com/2011/06/12/fashion/what-to-say-to-someone-whos-sick-this-life.html?_r=1&sq=&st=cse&%2334;=&scp=1&%2334;you%20look%20great=&pagewanted=all)